Does Your Hair Have A Hangover? 

 Normally, I would be the first friend to tell you that the key to happiness is to exclusively stay living in the moment, but when it comes to the happiness of your hair, it’s a totally different story. Your hair’s past affects its future potential for awesomeness and its critical to have a healthy hair gameplan or you may find yourself wasting money on expensive deep conditioners that don’t work or harsh treatments containing poisonous chemicals. You may be thinking “she’s not talking to me..” But I totally am. You’re hairs past is a real as your own, and its time to take an honest look back and ask yourself if you’ve been making healthy choices and if not, then you need to keep reading so you can come up with your own healthy hair recipe and relax, knowing you have the power to have fabulous hair forever!

 Of course it’s ok to have fun with your hair, I mean it does grow back and it’s a great way to express who you are to the world! I fully support going tangerine or teal if that’s your jam. You wanna wash and curl your hair morning and night? Do it! Just make sure you are taking precautions to avoid giving your hair a hangover or worse frying it off! The best way to insure that you will have healthy hair is to be healthy yourself, avoid overdoing it with chemicals and heat, and invest in quality products. I know, I know… Not everyone can afford the best treatments or products, but I’ll tell you what I know about whats out there in hair repair land and you can decide for yourself if it’s worth it.


HAIR MASKS, DEEP CONDITIONERS, & HOT OIL TREATMENTS

These types of products work best to repair hair that is lacking in moisture. A loss of moisture in hair can be the result of over use of hot tools (blow dryer, flat iron, curling wand, etc.) They are typically applied on wet hair after a thorough shampooing and left to sit and “soak in” anywhere from 2 to 30 minutes. The problem with these types of treatments is that they don’t do much to actually repair the hair. They sit on the outside of the hair shaft and just smooth it down with a nice heavy load of waxes, oils, and silicas, most of which are too large molecularly to penetrate the actual hair shaft and really do anything notable. What they do do though is make your hair feel soft and look shiny and smell good, and this placebo affect can work very well to make you feel like you have healthier hair for awhile.

KERATIN TREATMENTS 

If you haven’t heard the word keratin associated with smooth, frizz free, shiny hair, then you must be living under a rock. Keratin is the main protein that makes up hair, skin, and nails and if you have coarse, frizzy, dry, or curly hair there is no denying that the results of such a treatment are miraculous. It’s important to realize that this treatment is meant to straighten and smooth the hair shaft so if you don’t want straighter hair then it is not a good choice for you. I personally was not happy with the results I had because I felt like my hair was too smooth and straight and flat.. But that’s me. Another issue is that in order for these treatments to work best they often contain formaldehyde, a chemical that has been known to cause cancer. Obviously we are all trying to avoid cancer so that makes keratin procedures a bit of a controversial topic. The treatments have become so popular because of their effectiveness that many companies have come out with products that do not contain formaldehyde, but unfortunately they struggle to deliver the same results. 
BOND MULTIPLIERS

In 2015 a new product called Olaplex hit the hair industry like a bomb creating a buzz with its new patented formulation of a 3 step system that would allow customers and colorists the ability to push the boundaries of hair coloring and bleaching without all the damage. The company markets it as “insurance for your hair” and suggests investing in the treatment every time you bleach or highlight as well as purchasing the take home product, simply called Step 3. If you have been bleaching your hair to get a fashion colors like green or purple, or if you are lightening your hair frequently it’s a great choice for you. Because this is a new chemistry in the industry there have not been many insights about long term benefits but the implications are that you would need to keep using it to see continued results. 


I have tried every trick in the book to try and get my hair back from the dead and I have been anxious to try Olaplex myself before I start offering it as a service for my customers. I have to confess I am impressed. I’ve been slowly bleaching old color out of my hair with highlights and using the Olaplex system. Not only does my hair feel great but I think my natural curl pattern is coming back a little springier! Bonus!! The bottom line is that in this day and age there is no excuse for bad hair. Talented professionals are everywhere and with the help of a stylist and my fab advice you and your hair can party like rock stars forever!

 

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Anything Worth Doing Is Worth Doing Good Enough 

Hello again! I’m back after a super long hiatus with no amazing excuse except that I’ve been busy becoming who I am today. If you’ve been following my blog you already know that I identify myself as a hopeful dreamer, a lover of life, and a major procrastinator. Couple these traits with my passion for writing and perfectionist ideals and you get a sizable case of writers block… Umm.. Ya. It is what it is right?! If you can relate in any way shape or form I have a funny little idea for you that my close friend shared with me and it is the idea that any task worth doing ( meaning you really really really want or need to do it ) is worth doing “half – assed”. I know what you’re thinking…. that it sounds backwards. We should all be giving 100% all the time or else don’t bother!! Well WTF does that do for me? I’m already a mega spaz about meeting my own expectations.. That half the time I give up Bc I am afraid I will be disappointed or worse I will disappoint others with my efforts. Sound familiar? You’re not alone.. There are many of us and we are all paralyzed waiting for “inspiration” to get moving. So this is my best effort to deliver something and break the seal of my thoughts so that I can start sharing them with the world again. One of the things on my mind lately is how much can change in a year! My hair is finally getting longer and healthy after my emotional makeover last year… See previous post for insight. I still have been receiving emails from readers about hair questions, which I love!  I have been contacted by a couple of companies asking me to sample their products and review them or mention them in my blog, an awesome perk that I hope I get more opportunities to do. I have settled into a nice routine with my children and my career, and in the midst of it all I’ve also fallen in love. Yup, life is pretty good these days.. But it wasn’t an easy road and if I hadn’t put some good solid effort in long ago, I wouldn’t be where I am at now.

If you want to know where you’re headed, it’s important to know where you’ve been. The same is true for your hair. Your hair’s past is important too and if you haven’t been investing in quality products and hair treatments then you aren’t going to get to do as many fun things with it like try a new haircolor for summer or flat iron it smooth every day. I’ve been experiencing a similar side effect with my feet. From years of standing in uncomfortable shoes like flip flops, flats, and unsupportive high heels, I have developed a terrible case of plantar fasciitis. Every morning I wake up and can barely put pressure on my right foot.. I hate it!! I wish I had taken better care of my feet and worn better shoes like the ones that  Naturalizer sent me recently to test out. I’ve always been skeptical of “comfort” shoes Bc, let’s be honest, they can be ugly or heavy and who wants that? But more and more I am seeing styles that are cute and I was very impressed with the cute pair of Mary Jane style shoes I picked out for myself from the Naturalizer at Work collection. As promised, the shoes are comfortable and stylish at the same time! I encourage anyone who is on their feet all day like I am to check out the available styles at Naturalizer.com

These are so comfy and supportive I could wear them all day!

If you are not signed up on my email list please take a moment to so you can keep up with me on a regular basis – there should be a link on my blog to “follow” me. In my next post I’m going to go over some treatments and products on that market that will help you invest in the future of your hair so that you can do all the things you want to with it while keeping it as healthy as possible, so stay tuned!  XOXO Natalie

Are You Ready For A Makeover OR Are You Having An Emotional Hair Crisis???

It goes without saying that being “in control” is a good thing, or at least it’s perceived to be! Most conflict in our lives stems from the discomfort we feel when we are dealing with things that are, or appear to be out of our control. Often when this happens people will search for ways to “get a grip” on things and force control over something they can influence immediately, like their hair!! If you can relate to this scenario and are itching for a dramatic change, you first need to ask yourself if this transformation is something that will bring you a spark, or if it’s only going to leave you looking for a bag to wear over your head. I am notorious for giving into emotional hair decisions… It’s kind of a running joke with my friends. Just because I can change my hair at will doesn’t mean I should ( but I do ). I have to admit I’ve put my hair through a lot lately, but I think I’ve landed in a sweet new style that I’m all about!! After numerous chemical processes including a temporary keratin straightener, several bleaching and coloring episodes, and about 4 haircuts, I have developed a new look for myself. Once I decided to get my own hands out of my hair I took advantage of some very talented and empathetic stylist friends’ skills and thanks to them, I AM LOVING IT!!! 

 Ups and downs are always going to happen in life and the allure of instantaneous change will always exist. How can you tell if your inspiration for a new cut or color is a good idea or if you are dealing with a potential emotional hair crisis?
As a stylist I rely on a few rules to help me to decide if a client is really ready for a major change. I have been thanked many times for telling people “no” once they realized that the makeover they thought would solve all their problems,  would have been colored with regret. Here are a few things I’m looking for that let me know you are indeed ready for a transformative hair change. 

 1.) You have mentioned the change more than once and we’ve had a discussion about the reality of it in your daily life. When I have a customer who suggests a big change but then chickens out, only to bring it up the next visit, and then the one after.. I see this as a big sign that they will be able to live happily with the decision. Within this time frame I will try to give the customer all the facts about the new look so that they can think about it and prepare themselves. I will also suggest they start looking for images to show me so that I know what they are looking for.

 2.) You have a collection of inspirational images, a Pinterest board, or a style icon you’re stalking on Instragram who you are channeling in life at the moment. This kind of effort and research implies that there have been many hours logged into the daydream of the new style so it’s not just a whim. Most likely if we proceed with the change you will feel great! If this is the case I will make sure that we tailor the new style to you specifically because not everyone can wear every hairstyle. 

3.) You have survived a very dramatic emotional trauma or emotional shift that is now coming to a close and you feel like a completely different person. This can be a divorce, a move, a new job, a new baby, graduating school, loss of a loved one, etc. The key factor is that these events need to be absorbed and digested before making a style shift or one may run the risk of making a decision that they are not ready for yet. Sometimes a new style can signify that you have changed significantly and a visual reflection of that is cathartic.

4.) You have already worn your hair in a similar style in the past and really liked it. In this case you may already be aware of the upkeep of the new style and you aren’t going to be in tears losing 10 inches of hair bc it’s not your first rodeo. It’s possible that your hair has changed since you last wore the style but adjustments can be made to make it work and to modernize the look. 

  5.) You have neglected the signs that you are operating from an emotional space of needing change and control and you’ve colored your hair 10 times in 4 weeks ; and in the process ruined your hair to the point that the best ( and only ) option is to it cut it off! This is most common in the case of myself and my fellow hairstylists. Avoid this if at all possible because you will be forced into change and you may love it, but you may not.

The message here is that we are constantly changing, growing, learning, and adjusting to the magic of life. There will be times when a style change is the cherry on top. A well timed makeover will inspire other people around you to consider a change as well,  which is great! The key to pulling off a new look and making heads turn will be the dominance of confidence in your new style and in yourself. If you still aren’t sure of you are having an emotional hair crisis after reading this just ask a close friend and you will quickly have your answer. If you get the green light, then find a fabulous stylist to help you do it, and have fun with your new look! 

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What a Mess!! 4 Steps To Dealing With A Corrective Color

Usually I’m pretty good at keeping my life moving in a positive direction and staying upbeat and optimistic. I am full of expressions that I toss around casually like “In a year this won’t matter.” “It’ll workout! Don’t worry!” And “This will only make me
Stronger!”. They sound good right? In a relative sense my life is great, but even I have “shit” going on and I am not immune to getting overwhelmed by it. I am totally overwhelmed right now! Some things are out of my control, other things are completely my fault, and what’s obvious is that my old ways are not working anymore. It’s time to reorganize and come up with a game plan so that I can deal with the 20 million real stressors I’ve been glazing over for the last year.

As a colorist one of my favorite things to do is corrective color! My creative mind goes a mile a minute as I’m processing what I have in front of me and what I’m going to do with it. The bigger the mess, the more satisfying it is when I finally make it look better! Sometimes it takes a couple of appointments because the hair has been through so much and some miracles just can’t be delivered in a few hours… Time is necessary. I recently had one of these projects in front of me and after I worked my magic I was pretty proud of the results I got and my customer was very happy!

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Reflecting on all the steps I had to take to make this beautiful woman’s hair look amazing I realized that I need to approach my life challenges in the same way. When someone comes in with a hair mess and they just don’t know what to do these are the steps I take to deal with it.

1.) Evaluate: Take an honest look at the problem and gather as much information about what’s on the hair, how it got there, why it left or stayed… Basically I need full disclosure or I can’t move forward.
2.) Strategize: This is the part where my brain quickly goes through every possible thing I could do to the hair. Usually this step happens before I actually decide what I will do because sometimes what the customer wants is impossible. It’s up to me to let her know what we can and can’t do.
3.) Formulate: This is where the motto “work smart not hard” comes into play…. My goal is to choose colors and application techniques that will get me the best results in the shortest amount of time, while leaving the hair as healthy as possible. Sometimes I have to put 3 different formulas on the hair just to get it to look like one uniform color!
4.) Dive In and Don’t Look Back: Once I’ve committed to a plan of action I dive into the project. My brain is constantly thinking about the next step and what steps will have to be taken on the next visit. Sometimes while I’m working I get a better idea and I abandon a formula and do something else. It’s not the kind of thing one can just follow a recipe for, each case is unique and needs an original formulation and application to achieve results.

I could do corrective color all day and with the steps above I am almost always able to make progress and please my customers. In my life though I need help! I wish I knew someone who I could call in to help me organize my thoughts, strategize, and formulate so I can just dive into fixing my stress mess. I know in a year I’ll have a new set of problems to cope with and that, of course, everything will be alright. I will take my own advice once again and take the necessary steps and just be as patient and realistic as I would want one of my corrective color customers to be. I totally believe that magic and miracles can happen but they usually don’t happen overnight. I also know that I am so normal in this world and we all have our own version of a problem that needs a correction so if anyone out there has some good advice for me I’ll take it! And as always of you have a question about a corrective color you need done or are doing ( for you hairdressers out there ) please email me at thedearhairdresser@gmail.com. Or leave a comment below!

Why Every Single Woman Needs a Hairstylist

Let’s face it girls, we love to talk! We talk to our mothers, our friends, strangers, basically anyone who will listen (or at least pretend to). When we are talking to one another we will visit 10 different subjects in 5 minutes and never once consider the possibility that we are saying too much. As a hairstylist, I consider myself a professional conversationalist. I have heard so many crazy stories that I can and will talk about any and everything. While I’m working and getting to know a new client, this is a very valuable skill. However, recently it has become a problem for me because I am a single lady and I’ve started online dating. As it turns out, men have different preferences when it comes to conversation and I’ve had to learn the hard way that in the world of dating and getting to know someone new, less is way more! After being brushed off a few times after what I perceived to be great connections, it occurred to me that I must have a slight handicap in this arena because I’m so used to talking! I get paid to do hair, overshare, and listen and I just don’t know what’s ok to talk about with a guy I barely know and what I should just keep to myself. To avoid making the same mistakes I did I encourage you to head to the hairdresser and talk your hearts out so that when you find yourself sitting across the table from a hot guy you can focus on them not your drama.

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First things first! Let’s go over the types of things that you absolutely want to mention to your hairdresser. These topics should come up during your consultation but if your hairdresser forgets to ask about them please feel free to bring it up or just fling it out there.

1.) Your Hair History: This includes every single chemical hair service, including hair color, that the hair on your head has been through. It’s imperative that your stylist have this information so that they don’t ruin your hair! Don’t hold back even if you think it’s not important, here’s your chance to overshare!
2.) Your Budget: To avoid the awkwardness of a money misunderstanding I recommended bringing this up right away! Don’t be shy – just ask, or better yet tell! I love it when someone tells me what their budget is because it opens up the conversation and allows me to strategize about what I CAN do for that price instead of what I CAN’T – and I love to say “I can do that!”
3.) Your Hair Routine: By this I mean what, when, why, where and how. What do you expect your hair to look like when we are all finished? When are you coming back to the salon to get your hair done again? Why do you want your hair the way you are asking me to do it? Where are you taking this hairdo; to work, to the gym, on a date? How will you maintain this look with hair products and styling tools?

Now let’s move on to topics that you should talk about with your hairdresser NOT your date, or any other man for that matter, unless your hairstylist is a man.

1.) Emotional Stuff: This includes anything that gives you “feelings”; a bad breakup, any insecurities you have about your physical appearance, arguments with family and friends, childhood traumas, and everything in between. Your hairdresser actually needs to know where you’re at in your life to help you avoid making any emotionally charged hair changes, like shaving your head after you just had a baby.
2.) Your Dreams For Your Future: So you want to get married and have 10 babies and save the whales… That’s awesome! Tell me about it and I’ll give you all the love and support you are looking for I promise!
3.) Your Favorite Things: This includes anything you like a lot and may go on and on and on about. TV shows, movies, food, gym exercises, shoes.. You get the picture.
4.) Gripes: I like to stay positive as often as I can but I know it’s not easy! If you need to get something off your chest you can tell your hairdresser about it. Sometimes a girl just has to let it out so they can let it go! If you feel the need to have a good cry go ahead, just do it before your hair is done or it might get confusing.
5.) Your Children or Pets: I have kids and I’ve had pets so I know how easy it is to talk about this subject. It’s a great way to fill the potential silence of a hair appointment, so feel free to share.

It’s safe to assume that anything you might talk about with your hairdresser is a subject best avoided with a man. If you can’t help yourself and you accidentally bring up something like this I suggest wrapping it up quick and moving on to a better subject. This happened to me recently and after I noticed and dialed it back a little my friend assured me that a “fly by” is ok, which I appreciated! If you want my advice on what to talk about with guys I say stick to topics about physical activities or just talk about them, they love that subject! Once you have someone in your life that’s decided they like you enough to hear all this about you then it’s fine to share but keep in mind that they still would probably rather that you shared it with your hairdresser.

Fall Changes Without Haircolor

My last post was about changing your haircolor to suit the Fall season, but I didn’t make any mention of ways to change your look if you don’t color your hair. It goes without saying that change is sometimes difficult to embrace but I think we all can agree that it is utterly necessary for survival. If you don’t color your hair and you need to freshen up your look for fall I recommend trying some if these ideas.
1.) Change the shape of your haircut or add some more layers. You may not realize that you can make a few simple adjustments and get big results, for example adding more layers just around your face or cutting your perimeter into a square shape instead of a round shape.
2.) Treat yourself to a colorless gloss treatment to add shine or a deep conditioner. Many color lines have a clear coat option as part of their semi permanent line that is void of tone or color and just imparts the conditioning ,shine enhancing properties of a color treatment. And a deep conditioner can help repair some of the damage that happened over the summer as you played all day at the beach or went blonder. Simply ask your colorist about it and book one!
3.) Skip the hair salon all together and treat yourself to some new experience you haven’t tried before like an amazing facial with a talented estictician, a luxury massage, or a gel polish manicure! Your hair won’t mind if you skip a haircut so you can get pampered in a new way! Trust me you’re worth it.
Sometimes changes happen that we aren’t happy about so we try to ignore it but the best way to deal with it is head on! For example let’s say that you tried to go extra blonde over the summer and now your hair is fried… Don’t try to keep that gross dried out stuff that you think is long hair! Accept the fact that it’s never gonna be the same again and cut it off! The only way to move through change is to acknowledge the facts and be proactive about navigating through it. In other words make the most of what you have and keep a confident smile on your face because that’s really all you need to be wearing this Fall. Well that and a great hairdo!

Changing Color in the Fall

Hello all it’s that time again – Fall! As the leaves on the trees are changing so should your haircolor. If you’ve been maximizing your time in the sun, then chances are your haircolor has faded or bleached out and you might want to think about asking your colorist to help you with a tune up.
Here are a few simple ways to adjust your color casually and easily.
1.) Have some lowlights painted into your hair. Typically hair is darker underneath so of you pull a darker color through the bottom half of your hair then have a few streaks of darker pulled through the top you will be able to use your washed out color to look like highlights.
2.) Request a toning gloss treatment to be placed on all of your hair. Most professional lines have a Demi or Semi permanent color option that would be perfect. Have your stylist pick a shade that is simply a level deeper than what you already have – or if you’re up to it even a lil darker. I also recommend using a shade that has golden tones or warm (red) tones. It will add lots of shine and richness to a drab looking summer color.
3.) Find a color conditioner. Colored shampoos and conditioners will stain the hair and can help add vibrancy back to a boring shade. Aveda makes some fabulous ones and you can get info on them at your local Aveda store.
4.) Just go crazy and try a whole new shade! I always feel like Fall is the time to try out that amazing auburn you’ve been eyeing or that risky red! The thought is that if you don’t like it then by the time summer rolls around you will probably be able to get back to what you had before.
As usual, I always recommend making major color changes with the help of a professional – but if you are trying out your skills on a friend or yourself and need some advice just shoot me an email at thedearhairdresser@gmail.com and I’ll do my best to help! Don’t be afraid to embrace change – it’s just hair right?!

Happy Birthday Dear Hairdresser

Hi All! It’s here – the one year anniversary of my sweet little blogging project. I never could’ve predicted the twists and turns my year would take, but life has a way of keeping you on your toes doesn’t it? I’ll just quickly share that in my personal life the last 2 months have quite possibly been the darkest, scariest, and most traumatic ever but I’ve landed smack dab at the starting line of the life of my dreams and I couldn’t be more motivated, prepared, and well conditioned to live every moment of it!
Dear Hairdresser as a blog has had a lot of changes as well. I’ve learned a lot about what works and what doesn’t and I’m ready to make some changes. My most popular posts are the ones that contain the most information on haircutting and hair coloring terminology, so I can assume that millions of people out in the world haven’t a clue about how to talk to their hairdresser. I feel compelled to focus my blog posts on helping people understand more about hair terms, techniques, communication with stylists and answering readers questions about hair. I will no longer be sharing personal stories about my life but if you want to keep an eye on my you can follow me on Instagram under my name, thedearhairdresser. Keep a lookout for my next post and if anyone has any ideas for a future post or topic please share!!! Goodbye everyone and thanks for being loyal followers! Natalie

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Breaking Up With A Bad Hairdo

With 3 decades of image concern under my belt, you can bet that I’ve had my share of different hairstyles. I don’t always follow the trends and at times I’ve worn a ponytail for weeks in a row, however I can boast that I have tried an array of different do’s and colors. Hairstyles come and go and while some people can pull off one look well, it doesn’t mean they should hold onto that style for eternity. If you can’t produce a collage of photos like the ones of me and my beautiful mother below then maybe it’s time to break up with your hairstyle and try on something new for a change.
Breaking up with a hairstyle can be like breaking up with a boyfriend. At first you will talk yourself out of it as you reminisce about all the good times you shared together. But somewhere things took a turn and 10 years later what was once so right is just so wrong! You had gotten so comfortable in your old style you practically forgot that you weren’t married to it and that there are many other styles out there to choose from.
Take the “Need A New Do” quiz and find out if you are in danger of becoming a victim of a hairstyle that is past it’s prime, then come back and visit my blog for a future post on my tips to finding a style that will be better for you.
1.) You still own the same brush, curling iron, and/or hairspray from 10 years ago.
2.) When you see pictures of yourself you can’t remember what year it was or worse which decade because your hair is the same in every photo.
3.) Your family has a nickname for your hairstyle as in the football helmet, the wave, or that rat’s nest.
4.) When you see other women with your hairstyle you instinctively ask them who does their hair because you believe that by seeing a new hairdresser you will be making a change.
5.) You know exactly how long ( down to the second ) it will take you to get your hair fixed in the morning before you start your day.
6.) Your hairdo has come “back” in a retro way and people 20 yrs younger than you are now wearing it and looking better in it. If you answered yes to ANY of these questions then perhaps the hairstylist that once rocked your world is now holding your hotness hostage. It’s time to kick it to the curb once and for all because life is short and who has time to waste on bad hair these days right?!

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Are You Living Up To Your Potential?

Want to know every hairdresser’s least favorite question? Here it is: “If you could do anything you wanted with my hair, what would you do?”  It seems like this would be our ultimate dream come true; a potential green light to do whatever we want to you – but it’s not! It’s frightening! The reason is because you haven’t really said that we CAN change your look, you’ve thrown in that annoying word “IF”. For a customer, flirting with change can be brought on by a myriad of reasons and as your stylist, it’s our job to read between the lines of your request and determine if you really are ready to embrace a change. Being a mind reader, a magician, a therapist, and a cutting edge trendsetter is a challenge, and for our credibility to stay intact, we must employ all of these roles in less than a minute. Even the best hairstylist can’t do a thing for you if you’re not willing to play with your hair’s “positive potential” and commit to a new look.

Speaking of “new looks”, what do think of the changes I made to my studio? Lots of remaining potential left to play with too.

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With all the new beginnings in my life I’ve been really thinking about potential and what it means to be open to possibilities. I’m into my third week in my new studio and I’m really enjoying the new sense of empowerment I have as a result of feeling more influential over all of my career’s potential. My customers are loving my new space, I’m finding my new rhythm, and I’ve definitely been busy this past month. I’m full of ideas and energy, I have goals that I have mentally mapped out an achievement strategy for, and I’m already waist deep in change. By all accounts I should be ready to soar, but something is looming over me like a dark menacing cloud. That annoying voice in my head is back and it’s hosting self-doubt, fear, and “negative potential” thoughts.  Do I have the skills I need to navigate this change and rise to my full potential? Will I be able to commit to the necessary maintenance needed to nurture my dreams?! What if I suck?! What if I fail!?! Looks like it’s time to take my own advice again and shift my perspective to see the limitless “positive potential” that is right in front of me and really commit to making my dreams become reality!

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When we focus of the good possibilities instead of the bad possibilities, then we give life a chance to surprise us! Just look at the change of seasons; Spring always shows up no matter how cold and long Winter seemed. Have you ever worried that the flowers wouldn’t bloom, the temperatures wouldn’t rise, and the days wouldn’t get longer? Of course not! The things that are meant to happen always do, we just need to get out of the way a little bit and let them. Speaking of Spring, change, and potential; everyone in my house has received some type of Spring makeover. I started the adventure by cutting about 6 inches off my mane, dying it dark auburn and adding a red “freak streak” (as my niece called it). Then my oldest daughter begged to have her hair cut short to match, so I lopped off about 6 inches of her hair leaving her with a stylish little square shaped bob. She loved it! As for my baby (now 18 months), the makeover process is proving to be a bit more challenging. Her shaggy do is out of control and after an attempt to transform her hair into an “anything is better than a mullet”, we’ve ended up with a “Dumb and Dumber-esque page boy”, a subtle but important improvement.

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Looking at children is a great way to reacquaint yourself with the amazing potential that all of us have. Did you forget that there was a time when you were just a zygote – just a little ball of cells that would become what you are today? Maybe you didn’t realize that potential energy never diminishes and that the same power of transformation is always inside of us, we just need to remember that we are all highly capable and powerful beyond measure. Just think back to when you thought you’d never grow up, or pass that class, or fit into the dress again. Now think about what it took to get from A to B and what type of mindset you had to get into to make it happen. Was it easy? Probably not! But, was it worth it? Trust that you CAN do things and remind yourself that change doesn’t have to be scary, it can be an exciting adventure.  It takes just as much time and energy to say  “What if I succeed?”, instead of “What if I fail?”, but it feels a million times more inspiring!

image (5) Who ever could’ve guessed that I would grow into the person I am today? When you line up all my school pictures from K to 11th grade it really shows the magic of change and potential!

I want to challenge everybody to think about changing something in their life. It doesn’t have to be a makeover, it can be something little. Pay attention to the thoughts that pop up in your head when you think about this change. Are these thoughts fear based, “negative potential” thoughts or are they adventure loving, “positive potential” thoughts? How do you feel when you visualize this change becoming a reality?  I’m going to challenge myself to change the wording of that dreaded “IF” question I mentioned earlier in this post so that you can use it without annoying your hairdresser. I’m thinking something like, “What do you think my hair is capable of because I’m open to the possibility of a change?” Or even better, “I’m ready for a change and I want to hear about my hair’s potential. Can you give me your professional opinion on a fresh new look for me?” Armed with these improved questions, a “positive potential” attitude, and a sense of adventure, you will be well equipped to welcome change into your life, just like we are all welcoming in Spring right now! As usual, I am interested to hear about your experiences with change (negative or positive), so please share!