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Are You Living Up To Your Potential?

Want to know every hairdresser’s least favorite question? Here it is: “If you could do anything you wanted with my hair, what would you do?”  It seems like this would be our ultimate dream come true; a potential green light to do whatever we want to you – but it’s not! It’s frightening! The reason is because you haven’t really said that we CAN change your look, you’ve thrown in that annoying word “IF”. For a customer, flirting with change can be brought on by a myriad of reasons and as your stylist, it’s our job to read between the lines of your request and determine if you really are ready to embrace a change. Being a mind reader, a magician, a therapist, and a cutting edge trendsetter is a challenge, and for our credibility to stay intact, we must employ all of these roles in less than a minute. Even the best hairstylist can’t do a thing for you if you’re not willing to play with your hair’s “positive potential” and commit to a new look.

Speaking of “new looks”, what do think of the changes I made to my studio? Lots of remaining potential left to play with too.

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With all the new beginnings in my life I’ve been really thinking about potential and what it means to be open to possibilities. I’m into my third week in my new studio and I’m really enjoying the new sense of empowerment I have as a result of feeling more influential over all of my career’s potential. My customers are loving my new space, I’m finding my new rhythm, and I’ve definitely been busy this past month. I’m full of ideas and energy, I have goals that I have mentally mapped out an achievement strategy for, and I’m already waist deep in change. By all accounts I should be ready to soar, but something is looming over me like a dark menacing cloud. That annoying voice in my head is back and it’s hosting self-doubt, fear, and “negative potential” thoughts.  Do I have the skills I need to navigate this change and rise to my full potential? Will I be able to commit to the necessary maintenance needed to nurture my dreams?! What if I suck?! What if I fail!?! Looks like it’s time to take my own advice again and shift my perspective to see the limitless “positive potential” that is right in front of me and really commit to making my dreams become reality!

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When we focus of the good possibilities instead of the bad possibilities, then we give life a chance to surprise us! Just look at the change of seasons; Spring always shows up no matter how cold and long Winter seemed. Have you ever worried that the flowers wouldn’t bloom, the temperatures wouldn’t rise, and the days wouldn’t get longer? Of course not! The things that are meant to happen always do, we just need to get out of the way a little bit and let them. Speaking of Spring, change, and potential; everyone in my house has received some type of Spring makeover. I started the adventure by cutting about 6 inches off my mane, dying it dark auburn and adding a red “freak streak” (as my niece called it). Then my oldest daughter begged to have her hair cut short to match, so I lopped off about 6 inches of her hair leaving her with a stylish little square shaped bob. She loved it! As for my baby (now 18 months), the makeover process is proving to be a bit more challenging. Her shaggy do is out of control and after an attempt to transform her hair into an “anything is better than a mullet”, we’ve ended up with a “Dumb and Dumber-esque page boy”, a subtle but important improvement.

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Looking at children is a great way to reacquaint yourself with the amazing potential that all of us have. Did you forget that there was a time when you were just a zygote – just a little ball of cells that would become what you are today? Maybe you didn’t realize that potential energy never diminishes and that the same power of transformation is always inside of us, we just need to remember that we are all highly capable and powerful beyond measure. Just think back to when you thought you’d never grow up, or pass that class, or fit into the dress again. Now think about what it took to get from A to B and what type of mindset you had to get into to make it happen. Was it easy? Probably not! But, was it worth it? Trust that you CAN do things and remind yourself that change doesn’t have to be scary, it can be an exciting adventure.  It takes just as much time and energy to say  “What if I succeed?”, instead of “What if I fail?”, but it feels a million times more inspiring!

image (5) Who ever could’ve guessed that I would grow into the person I am today? When you line up all my school pictures from K to 11th grade it really shows the magic of change and potential!

I want to challenge everybody to think about changing something in their life. It doesn’t have to be a makeover, it can be something little. Pay attention to the thoughts that pop up in your head when you think about this change. Are these thoughts fear based, “negative potential” thoughts or are they adventure loving, “positive potential” thoughts? How do you feel when you visualize this change becoming a reality?  I’m going to challenge myself to change the wording of that dreaded “IF” question I mentioned earlier in this post so that you can use it without annoying your hairdresser. I’m thinking something like, “What do you think my hair is capable of because I’m open to the possibility of a change?” Or even better, “I’m ready for a change and I want to hear about my hair’s potential. Can you give me your professional opinion on a fresh new look for me?” Armed with these improved questions, a “positive potential” attitude, and a sense of adventure, you will be well equipped to welcome change into your life, just like we are all welcoming in Spring right now! As usual, I am interested to hear about your experiences with change (negative or positive), so please share!

It’s Time To Get Uncomfortable

Holy Moly! The last couple of weeks have been crazy for me, to say the least. I’ve celebrated 3 family birthdays, including my 6 year old daughter’s at Chuck E Cheese, and my mother’s at the  Indian casino. I had a “rock bottom” cold that left me feeling so low that I became hopeless and depressed as I lost my voice for more than a week.  Just as I was starting to feel better, I boarded an airplane with my toddler, headed to California for a scheduled visit with my best friends.  Despite my efforts to entertain her, my 15 month old angel screamed for the majority of the time and I wanted to just disappear into the seat. Due to all of these life hurdles, I was unable to muster up the energy or focus necessary to push out an inspiring post last week, and even now I am struggling to collect and organize my thoughts into something tangible. So instead of trying to “Wow” you, I’m just going to do my best to get my thoughts out, because for 3 weeks I’ve been ruminating on the concept of discomfort and its necessity for growth and change. I could call it a coincidence that I have been so physically and mentally uncomfortable in the last 15 days that I literally don’t feel like myself, but I know better. This is life’s way of testing me on the very principle I want to share with you….getting comfortable being uncomfortable, and its necessity in life for providing us with a path toward growth and change.

While I was in California, I got a chance to stay with one of my favorite people in the world, Jen, and her boyfriend Kris. They both have jobs where they deal with putting people in uncomfortable physical situations; Jen is a yoga instructor and Kris co-owns a gym and is a personal trainer. In order to help them train the minds and bodies of their clients, they are constantly pushing people to try harder, reach higher, and embrace discomfort as a tool for growth and change.  Jen told me that in Yin Yoga, a discipline she teaches, the goal is to contort your body into a very unnatural, uncomfortable position and to hold the position for a predetermined amount of time. She emphasized that the point isn’t to be comfortable, instead the point is to rest in the discomfort so that you can train your brain to recognize that it can handle difficult situations and survive. It’s actually a conditioning technique for the mind! Kris told me that at his gym he doesn’t like to stand behind people just counting reps for them, he likes to let them find their personal strength to overcome the challenges they face by acting as their educated guide and coach. He often tells people to “get comfortable being uncomfortable”, a slogan he learned from a fitness mentor he respects and follows. Kris knows firsthand the kind of mental strength it takes to reach your goals, because as a boy he weighed over 300 pounds. Now a strapping 200 lbs and in the best shape of his life, Kris is able to inspire people at his gym to want more for themselves and believe they can do it! He’s living proof that if you want to change you can, but its not going to be easy, and it’s definitely going to feel uncomfortable.

I will be the first to admit that I hate being uncomfortable. I dress up for work because I have to, not because I want to, and any chance I get, I am in my “comfies” looking like a frazzled mom instead of a professional hairstylist. Becoming a blogger has been, and still is, incredibly uncomfortable for me. Every time I think about putting myself out into the blogosphere with a new post, I hear a voice in my head say “Who do you think you are?” I push on because I know a secret about being uncomfortable – eventually it becomes comfortable. I’ve recently started wearing bright lipstick, but for years I never did because I have large lips (how stupid right?) and I felt self conscious about all that color on my face. I also love the way high heels look, but they don’t feel as good as flats, and at 5 foot 9 inches I’m already tall. When my desire to become a person who wore lipstick and heels overwhelmed my desire to blend into the background, I decided to push past my doubts and do it anyways, just like I’m doing now with my desire to be a life and beauty advice blogger. Being uncomfortable isn’t a good enough reason to stop following your dreams, it’s a conditioning tool to train you to make you stronger! The road ahead will be challenging, thats a guarantee, but the reward will be worth it!20131124-163335.jpg

I want to challenge you all to identify something in your life that you want to try but never have because it makes you uncomfortable. I also want to challenge you to share your experiences with me and the other readers by telling your story as a comment, or on my Dear Hairdresser Facebook page. Now that you all know about me, I want to know about you!


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