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Beauty Survival Tips – March into Spring

I don’t know about you, but I’m ready for spring! I’m so sick of static cling hair, chapped lips, and darkness, I can barely write a blog about it! My frumpy sweaters are starting to pill, my fat pants are tight, and my motivation level is at a negative one. Can’t we just skip along to May and call it all good? If you are feeling like winter got the best of you, then you need a pre-spring boost and I know just how to start you off on the right foot. These 6 tips can help you fight back against the side effects of a long winter so that you will be looking and feeling fresh as a spring daisy.
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1.) Do a deep conditioning treatment on your hair! Everyone’s hair could benefit from some extra moisture after a long cold winter. I recommend something like Aveda’s Dry Remedy Moisture Mask or a hot oil treatment like Redken’s Diamond Oil.

2.) Pick up an exfoliant and moisturizer for your body. It’s not just our hair that needs to be repaired, our skin and nails also need a boost. Exfoliants, like St. Ives Apricot Scrub, can help remove dead skin cells from your body while revealing new, luminous skin underneath. Follow it with a rich body moisturizer, like Eucerin, and your skin will go from scaly lizard dry to satin ribbon smooth.

3.) Schedule yourself a cut and color. In the winter people have a tendency to go into hibernation mode after the excitement of the holidays is over. This usually results in a very out of shape haircut and a long overdue color job. Don’t wait for a friend to tell you you look like hell, just pick up the phone and call your stylist now. You won’t regret it.

4.) Shake up your morning or night time routine by adding a new habit. It could be going to bed a little earlier, setting out your clothes the night before or simply starting a little journaling ritual. Small changes lead to bigger changes and you’ll be surprised how a little adjustment can invite big change into your life and reinvigorate you.

5.) Shift your eating habits and exercise routine. I’m sure even Gisele packs on a pound or 5 in the winter and has to regain control to prep for the summer. If you too are feeling like you’ve let yourself go, then get it together now or spend the summer complaining (by the way no one wants to hear about how fat you think you are as you’re shoving french fries and candy bars in your face – make a choice). Not to mention that exercise is a proven antidepressant, so if you’ve also got the blues then it’s a double win!

6.) Buy a new item in a fresh spring color. Be it a new shirt, a gauzy floral scarf, or a cute pair of sandals, adding some vibrant color into your world can give you and others a little mood boost. I notice that this spring it looks like bright colors and rich pastels are back and still delivering pizazz to wardrobes and accessories alike. According to Pantone the color of the year for 2014 is Radiant Fuschia. To see other hot spring colors check out www.pantone.com/spring2014

I can’t wait for all the new things going on in my world to come alive in the next few months. I recently left the salon I’ve worked at for over 11 years so that I can start a new adventure in my own little mini salon where I can be my own boss. The potential and possibilities available to me are overwhelming and I know it will be hard work but I’m excited! Reflecting back on my life and all of the experiences I have had leading up to where I am now, I feel so grateful to have had the privilege to work with so many amazing mentors and professionals. I want to say thank you to all of my teachers. I am eternally grateful to you all for sharing your knowledge, expertise, and professional values with me.

Next week I start the task of trying to get my new room all set up so I can start taking customers. I will get to paint, move shelves and mirrors, and add my own flare to the 10 by 10 space. Here’s a picture of the before – next week I’ll put up a picture of the finished product. Wish me luck!

 

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Doing the “Just Do It”

If you are not a major procrastinator like I am, than you may not understand why anyone would wait until the last minute to start a project or get a task done.  I’ve tricked myself into believing that this gives me some sort of competitive edge by telling myself things like, “I’m better under pressure” and “I don’t want to overthink it”. Normally I wouldn’t encourage ignoring the present for the dream of the future, but there are times when “living in the moment” can make a task unbearable! A good example is washing the dishes. I don’t have a dishwasher so I have a tendency to let the dishes pile up and then I’m forced to spend hours sweating over the sink. The only way I can get through it is to focus on how good I will feel when I’m finally done and how much I love not seeing dirty dishes piled up to the ceiling.

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I don’t just do this with my dishes, I do this with everything; getting out of bed in the morning, taking a shower, writing a post… yes I admit it, I have been procrastinating my posts lately! When I wait to the last minute to do things I don’t feel more capable or motivated to do them, which makes the task even more intimidating than before.  What Is it about that “just do it” part that is so hard for me and my fellow procrastinators? Whenever I have a session with my coach and I’m talking about something that I want in my life I notice that she often will ask me,  “How would that feel?” or “What would that look like?”. She wants me to visualize what life would look and feel like if I had already achieved my goal. The theory is that in focusing on being done with a task, imagining what it would be like to already have that thing you want , or be the person you desire to be, that you will naturally start to head in that direction.

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Waiting too long in between hair appointments can make your stylist’s  job ten times more difficult, just like procrastinating on any task. Hair grows, on average, a quarter of an inch a month. That’s not very much when you want your hair to get long, but when you are someone spending money for a professional quality haircut or a color touch up, it can become hard to keep up with. I have some clients that never want to see the sparkle of grey roots so they come in every 2 or 3 weeks. On the other hand, I have some customers that come in a few times a year. In most cases, waiting this long in between appointments can be like starting from scratch and add extra time and cost onto the appointment. It reminds me of all the money I had to pay recently to have my car fixed. If I had taken it in for the regularly scheduled maintenance then I probably could’ve avoided the hefty bill and the hassle of being stranded. Keep this in mind when you are deciding on a cut and color for yourself and be sure to ask your stylist how often you will need to come in and how much it’s going to cost you. Looking great is an investment and just like anything else that you invest money into, there will be regular maintenance costs and requirements. I recommend that my customers come see me every 4 to 6 weeks .If this seems like too much for you then I want you to ask yourself how much you would pay ( per day ) to have hair that you liked, because your hair is the accessory you wear EVERY DAY!

PS: YOU’RE WORTH IT!!!

The visualization technique I will be using as I push through my ” just do it” could also work for motivating you to get your hair done more often, especially when you’re thinking about the cost of it. Don’t focus on spending that money, focus on how good you will feel looking in the mirror and how that will affect your mood for the day.  I have a goal by the end of February to clean out and organize my apartment so that I can empty out a storage unit that I have that is costing me $120 a month. I’m reasonably sure that more than half of the stuff in it is stuff that I don’t want, which makes the task extra annoying because then I have to decide what to do with it. I’m sharing this with you because I know that you all have some big, daunting task that you’ve been procrastinating too. So let’s make an agreement that we will get it done. We can take the first important baby step together and start by closing our eyes and visualizing what it will feel like and look like to have this done! Now let’s JUST DO IT!!!!!

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If you are a fellow procrastinator like me, then please share with me the task or goal you have decided to tackle. Sharing your goals with others is a great way to get the ball rolling.  Once you’ve told a few people, they are probably going to ask you about it again, so now you have someone holding you accountable for the chore. If you are not a procrastinator, then please share some of your tips and strategies for getting things done.

 

 

Mini Makeover Ideas

Here I am at post #10! 3 months ago I was just waiting for the right moment to start my blog and now I’m one fifth into my 50 post goal. I still feel like I have so much to learn and today I’m feeling a little sour about my efforts. I’ve been checking out other people’s stuff lately and I have to admit it’s been intimidating! There are so many fabulous blogs out there and so much inspiration! In the spirit of my 2014 New Year’s resolution (Keep Pushing) I’m going to keep going in spite of my self doubts and just be myself. When I begin to feel like I’m just not measuring up to my competition in work and in life I instinctively search for a way to make a bold change so that I will stand out more. This often results in failure or embarrassment because I’m trying to be something that I’m not. I’m a perfectionist with a big ego so I generally compare myself to people who are at the top of their game, which always leaves me feeling less than.  A makeover doesn’t have to be a head to toe overhaul, sometimes a little tweak is all you need to neutralize the insecurity that arrives when we start comparing ourselves to others. Here are a few simple changes you can do to give your look a Mini Makeover without losing sight of yourself or trying to be someone you’re not.

1.) Change your part! Switching up your part is the easiest way to freshen up your look for free. Our faces are not symmetrical so switching the distribution of hair on your head can actually make your face look different too. Another added bonus is that you may get a burst of fresh volume as your hair fights against the split it’s been comfortable with for so long. If you don’t like it you can change it back, no commitment at all.

2.) Buy a new lipstick! The only thing stopping you from grabbing a color you’ve never worn before and slapping it on your lips is you! A new color can add excitement to your face and push you out of your comfort zone. A bold red, a bright pink, or a subtle nude shade you’ve never tried can make you feel like a completely different person. Don’t be afraid to just do it, it’s not a permanent change and you may be surprised by the feeling of rebellion you get from wearing a shade you thought you never could before. I found a great video that helps you identify your skins unique undertones so that can you pick the best shades for yourself, specifically red!http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/01/16/best-red-lipstick-skin-tone_n_2481580.html

3.) Cut some fringe/bangs! Bangs never really go out of style but the styles of bangs do change frequently. If you’ve never tried them before maybe now is the time. Consult with your stylist to see which type of bangs will look best with your hairline and face shape because that will make a big difference. If you already have bangs maybe you could consider growing them longer or even cutting them a little shorter. For some ideas about fringe styles with pictures included to show you what they look like check out http://www.dailymakeover.com/hairstyles/bangs/.

4.) Change your eyeliner! There are many different types of eyeliner out there and they all give a different type of look to the eye. Liquid liners are usually applied with a marker style applicator and they give a very defined line that can be swept up on the outer corner. Gel and powder eyeliners are applied with a brush and can be used to create a smooth solid line or a smoky diffused line. If you really want to get frisky you can even experiment with colored liners! If you go this route I do recommend keeping the rest of the bright color on your face to a minimum or you may look like you did a clown makeover instead of a mini makeover. Here is a great tutorial/article about eyeliner that I found, it even taught me a few things!  http://makeup.lovetoknow.com/Eyeliner_Styles

5.) Get some new hair accessories! A beautiful clip, a sassy headband, or even a hat can all be quick and easy ways to freshen up a boring look. Nowadays there are so many cute ones available and there are plenty of stores at the mall full of reasonably priced accessories that are not just for little girls. This tip also pairs well with the “grow out your bangs” idea I mentioned earlier. Just clip them back or to the side with a trendy little bobby pin or a headband and voila, a new you!

Sometimes it’s easy to look around at everyone else’s fabulousness and feel like you’re blending into the background. You don’t need to follow the crowd to get noticed, you just need to switch up few little things and give yourself a boost. Like I said in my debut post, the secret to really looking great is confidence and seeing yourself in a new light can make that happen! Hopefully you’ve noticed the graphic header that my sister Mandy designs for me has received a little holiday makeover with a Santa hat and a few Christmas lights! I hope you will try a few of these mini makeover tips and tell me about how they worked for you. Did it make you feel different? Did anyone notice? Did it give you that little boost you needed this winter? Share, share, share!

Want to check out some of the blogs that I’ve been inspired and intimidated by? These are all written by empowered and creative women who are experts in the blogging community and I think you would enjoy them too! They have been recommended to me by my network of Facebook friends and they are top notch.

http://www.mollieinseattle.com/

http://www.alongabbeyroad.com/

http://www.thesmallthingsblog.com/

http://gardenapothecary.com/

The Gift Of The Present

When you are an ambitious working mom with a busy social schedule, living in the moment is more like surviving moment to moment. This week I’ve been so scattered I’ve forgotten where I set down my cell phone numerous times, officially lost a set of car keys within the mess of my car, and misplaced my precious make up bag! I’ve also failed to pay attention to the urgency of a few important matters in my daily world. Like I said in my first post, I am a major procrastinator and because of that I often let things erupt into a five alarm fire! For example, my recent string of bad luck with my car. Two breakdowns that left me stranded and over $1,600 in repairs later, I’m wishing I had taken the check engine light more seriously. I also have been ignoring a flea infestation in my apartment – the side effect of letting my cat cruise around outside on the balcony. For about a month I’ve silently prayed that they would just go away but after I noticed that I was literally being eaten alive, I had to accept that I was losing the battle of the bugs. My first instinct is to blame life for these major inconveniences but I know that the blame is on me. I’ve been too distracted by things that already have happened in the past or things that I think may happen in the future, to pay attention to what’s happening right in front of me!

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Whether I’m cutting, coloring, or styling a clients hair, I have to stay in the moment. If I don’t I risk hurting myself or my customer and their hair, while at the same time ruining my reputation as a master hairdresser. Once I was in a rush to add caramel lowlights to a blonde client’s hair and in my haste I mistakenly grabbed a level 1 (black) tube of color that was hanging out with the level 7s (dark blonde). Black streaks in blonde hair does add dimension, but it definitely wasn’t what my customer was looking for that day. Oops! Another time, I had my head in the clouds during a haircut and I nearly cut my finger off!  I knew immediately after it happened that I wasn’t paying attention and I was thankful I had sacrificed my finger instead of my clients ear. Being out of the moment can be dangerous and its most often when accidents happen that may make it even more difficult to enjoy the next moment!
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There are times when revisiting the past can be fun, like a 1960’s themed Christmas party. Last weekend I was invited to my friend, Rachel Belle’s, holiday work party. The theme was Mad Men and we were encouraged to dress the part. Rachel and I love to dress up, and more than that, we love attention!  I accepted the invitation to do her hair and be her date, knowing that I had a closet full of faux furs and vintage hand gloves that would be perfect.  After about an hour of prepping Rachel’s coif with a flat iron and endless backcombing, I had transformed her wild curls into a polished beehive-esque up do. Ready to take on the night, we headed out to Lake Union where the free food and fun was awaiting us. As usual, we were a little livelier than the rest of the crowd, so we left after munching and took our do’s to a small bar where we received even more attention. The night was fun and we did look amazing, but the best part of the whole night was getting to spend time with my gal pal Rachel.
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Time is a precious gift and it’s the most important thing we have to share with others when we are living in the moment. A couple of weeks ago I had a cold reminder of just how precious time is; I lost a long term customer and friend, Jen, to breast cancer. A couple days before she passed away I had made plans to visit  Jen because I knew she was sick. I was all set to head out to her place, when my stupid car broke down! Stranded and annoyed, I canceled our get together and rescheduled it for a couple days later, thinking that a few days wouldn’t really matter, but it did. I was so sad that I had missed our “last visit” and I felt silly remembering all the things I had complained about earlier that day – things that didn’t matter at all.  When I talked to Jen’s brother to express my sympathies and heartache that I hadn’t been able to see her a few nights before, he thanked me and said, “I know, we all thought she had more time.” More time.
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It is so easy to lose sight of the most important things in life like family, friends, and time. The magic of the holiday season isn’t on sale at the mall, it’s happening right now in front of you! Take a look around and appreciate all the good things you already have in your life because the future is quickly turning into the past, and the present moment is the real gift. Reflecting on the past can be a great tool to help us navigate the potential future, as long as it doesn’t overwhelm our attention and make us forget to enjoy the moment. The future is only something that may happen, and no matter how much we plan for it, we have no control over what will come to be. The only thing we can do is enjoy the moment and make sure we share it with the people that bring us the most joy, so keep that in mind this season when you’re wondering what to get that special person on your list. The gift of time is something that doesn’t cost much and it can be shared with anyone and everyone. Happy Holidays!

5 Signs You Should Find A New Hairdresser

It has taken me years of training, hours of practice, and my share of “oopsies”, to be able to deliver fabulous hair to people on a consistent basis. My experience and my knowledge certainly help me attract customers, but I believe it’s my personality, combined with these accolades, that keep people coming back. When you’re getting your hair done, you may be spending several hours in the company of a total stranger. You will also be trusting this person with your hair, your secrets, and your self image. Doesn’t it make sense that this person should be someone you actually like? Technique can improve over time, but personality may not!

Here are some “Red Flags” to keep an eye out for while searching for “The One”

1.) A stylist who doesn’t listen! If you are unsure if they understood you, then ask them to tell you their interpretation of what you want. A good stylist will know how to tell a person what IS, and what ISN’T possible. If they disagree with you, but have a good reason to back it up, then please consider their opinion. After all, they are the “expert”.

2.) A Stylist who speaks negatively about other customers, co-workers, or salons. If your stylist is negative, what makes you think you’re going to leave their chair feeling good about yourself? Looking good starts with feeling good, and if you just got an earful of garbage, you will probably leave feeling like trash.

3.) A stylist who is constantly leaving your side to answer a phone call, take a smoke break, or is ignoring you while they carry on a conversation with the person next to them. YOU are paying for this person’s time!  When your buns are in the chair, you are a VIP, and you deserve to be treated that way!

4.) A stylist who appears to be drunk, stoned, high, etc. If you ever suspect that your stylist is a little “off”, then politely excuse yourself, and express your concerns to the owner or manager.  I’ve never known anyone to perform better at their job while intoxicated. Plenty of time to party after work, right?

5.) A stylist who can’t accept criticism or your request for a “fix”. This is a major red flag that, not only is this person not a good listener, but that they don’t care about maintaining  you as a client. Sure, it feels bad when someone complains about my work, but it feels great when they love it after I get a chance to fix it. Remember, you’re looking for a person you can communicate with! Do your part too. Be honest with your stylist so they have a better chance to WOW you.

The goal when you finally find a great stylist, is to build a relationship with them so you will be able to honestly communicate your needs. This person should be a good listener, and also have enough skill to be able to communicate to you what your hair is capable of, and exactly what you will need to do to achieve your desired look.  When you finally find someone you like and who seems knowledgeable, then you have found a good candidate. If the first cut or color isn’t perfect, give them a second chance, they may improve after they know you and your hair a little better. Good luck, and remember, you want to leave feeling great on the inside as well as looking great on the outside!